My boyfriends still looks at personals websites. When I told him that I was not comfortable with that, he said I could look with him. I don’t want him thinking I don’t trust him, but I also don’t think it is a good idea. When I asked him “What if I logged onto personals?” He said he would get jealous. Sounds pretty hypocritical to me. How can I explain this better so he would understand where I am coming from?
Most men when it comes to dating, especially dating beautiful girls will turn into a wussy. Women are turned off by wussy men big time!
So what is a wuss? Let’s begin by defining the word wussy. This slang word is thought to be derived from the word “wimp” and is meant as a guy who behaves in a wimpish, submissive and needy way. This is a sign of male weakness and that is why women disdain wussy men.
Believe it or not, women are able to spot wussy man a mile away. Attractive girls get approached all the time and so they need to be able to immediately judge whether a man is worth the effort to date or not. If you are an attractive girl, can you imagine being approached every day by needy men. You will really be sick of men telling you that you are so beautiful and being asked to go on dates, won’t you?
The problem is that most men radiate a neediness that most women can feel instinctively and part of this neediness are the signals his body language is sending out.
The one thing that women notice about a man’s body language immediately is the eye contact which women use to test men. If he holds her gaze till she looks away he has passed the initial test. If he can’t even hold her gaze for a few seconds, then he is perceived to be weak. Men who can hold a women’s gaze for about 6 seconds and then smile are judged to be strong and this triggers sexual attraction in girls.
Some things that wussy men do are always trying to please women by always agreeing with her and not saying no to anything she wants. This is wussy weakness and not chilvary, so get that right!
Do you know that the more you say “no” to a woman the more she respects you? This is because you will come across as a strong dominant male and she feels more secured with dominant men. It is a primeval tribal instinct.
On the the other hand, the more you say yes, the less she feels you are able to hold onto yourself. If you say yes all the time she knows that you can be manipulated to do just about anything and you bet most of the time, you will be manipulated to do her wishes, that is, if you managed to date her in the first place.
Wussies frequently buy expensive presents to please women. Buying flowers for every date would be an example of such. Also, letting the women get away with bad behavior is another example of a typical wussy. So stop pandering up to her! Be the man women want, not wimp!
Yes, some women may date or even marry wussy men but this is not because they are attracted to these kind of men but because he is either the best she can get, is rich and has been courting her so many years that she finally gives in to him. Whatever the reason is, she will never feel attraction for him.
Women don’t choose who they are attracted to and they also don’t choose the emotions that they feel either. It just happens instinctively. They either like you as a potential date or they don’t straightaway.
One major problem most men have to face is becoming a wussy over time. Herein lies the bottomless black hole. When you gradually turn into a wussy with a woman, that emotion called attraction in her will begin to begin to flicker out.
For example, a woman will say things like, “I don’t know what it is but for some reason lately he is just annoying me nowadays.” It bothers and irritates women when a man that is interested in them acts like a wussy.
Then as the relationship gets worse the more annoyed the woman becomes, the more the man becomes more wussy like. It is a dating vicious cycle that usually ended up with the woman dumping the poor chap and he doesn’t even know what went wrong which left him thinking that perhaps, if he had just been able to tell her just how much he loved her, she wouldn’t have left him for that another guy. Another wussy thought!
So if you want to date girls successfully, don’t make the mistake of being a wuss and you will naturally attract more and more women to date.